“I want to break up, but I still love you”
Posted on January 1, 2009 - Filed Under Uncategorized
For those who know me really well, it is common knowledge that I cannot stand drama. For those of you who don’t know exactly what I mean by that, check out the urbandictionary.com definitions (WARNING: Some of the 38 definitions offered contain potentially offensive language and gender stereotypes.) Basically, it all breaks down to someone having a problem but, instead of finding the quickest and most effective solution, s/he sits around doing nothing but talking about it. Anyway, here is the story leading up to why I am writing about this:
My mother/father-in-law and sister visited us for Christmas this year; unfortunately, my brother-in-law was not able to be here. One day, he texted Erin telling her (and therefore, all present) that one of his friends’ girlfriend was pregnant. Surrounding this situation are a number of facts which make it an example of drama; I won’t get into these details, both to protect privacy and to not be a perpetrator of the drama. Anyhow, later my mother-in-law and I were talking about this circumstance; I, of course, was compelled to speak one of my personal truths: “I hate drama!” Then it hit me like a ton of bricks–most people, upon becoming a parent, don’t have the time or lose interest in other peoples’ drama and do their best to limit their own, probably out of a sense of self-preservation. What a relief!!! I’ll take poopy diapers over drama any day. My next revelation did not bring such a sense of joy, however. This period of time does not last very long. Typically, when a child starts school (perhaps even pre-school or even daycare), that ugly monster Drama rears itself again. And now you’re stuck–your kids, whichever gender, are guaranteed to fill your life with the poison. You thought you were free! HA! You’re a sucker! Not only does it exist between siblings but also between each of your children and each of their friends. God forbid you should divorce or separate from your spouse–then you really are stuck in a soul-sucking, continuously downward spiral of emotional hell (the saying, “It’s cheaper to keep her” isn’t just talking about actual money).
So, for those of you with very young children, who find yourselves bemoaning the day after day routine of spills, refusals to eat a lovingly prepared meal, and calls for more presents three days after Christmas, be thankful: There is coming a day–soon, mind you–when you will long for these days.
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I love the picture of Maggie and the scarecrow!
Thanks. Stay tuned…more to come soon.
Drama, drama..Having 3 kids and 3 marriages between us-Jerry and I know drama all too well…You made me laugh Jason. Hope your holidays were bright and cheerful…AND CONGRAT!! I am very happy for you two. Wanted to call but as so often happens –something went wrong because of my failure to complete the tasks at hand. Got a new cell phone and never transferred all numbers over. Can’t find the old phone..Erin if you would be so kind as to call me I would love to talk to you…Love Michelle