Picture day
Posted on September 27, 2007 - Filed Under Uncategorized
Maggie took her first school pictures today. The clothes I hoped she would wear she refused to keep on. She evidently has issues with certain clothing. What those issues are I do not know. After the third shirt I put on her she seemed okay with the choice. The other ones she ripped off in a fit of rage. At school Crystal, her teacher, was able to straighten her hair and pull it up in a cute band and barrette. Maggie wore her hair up with no problem at school but the minute I put her in the car seat she ripped the band out of her hair.
I think the pictures will be really cute when they are printed. I told Crystal that Jason would not be happy she put Maggie’s hair in a barrette. I tried to explain, as I try with everyone who inevitably ventures into this subject, that Jason is afraid Maggie will turn out to be stupid if too many people introduce “girly” thoughts into her brain. It is the fear of persuasion concept. He wants Maggie to choose who she wants to be and not have anyone push her in a certain direction. Jane, the other teacher, stated emphatically that Maggie was not girly. Jason took comfort in that knowledge. Jason and I have had plenty of discussions about the fact that a female can be girly and smart at the same time. Plus, I tell him, if Maggie doesn’t learn how to be feminine she will have a hard time relating to other girls. I think eventually he will come around on the subject. Not that he will have much choice in the matter. It is becoming quite evident that Maggie is stubborn and only wants to do what she wants to do. I am already looking forward to those teenage years (insert sarcasm here!!!!).
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“…Jason is afraid Maggie will turn out to be stupid…”
While the essence of this statement is true, it suggests I think girls are stupid. This is obviously not the case. What I do think, however, is that our culture destroys most little girls’ personalities by making them be something they aren’t. Who says girls have to wear pink? It’s absolute crap that people think girls can’t wear blue because it’s a ‘boy’ color. Not to mention the fact that most, if not all, of these things we do are for us the adults rather than for the child. What little girl actually wants to wear uncomfortable shoes, little frilly outfits, and be pestered at for getting dirty?
Another aspect of this is the ‘woman’s role’ idea. Little girls not getting dirty in childhood eventually turns into a woman being around primarily to meets her man’s needs. If we teach our daughter to not cry and act like she’s in pain when she falls down (and is, in fact, injury free) and things like that, my thought is she will grow into a competent, independent, self-directed person. But that isn’t what we teach little girls; they are supposed dainty little princesses. IT’S CRAP!!! Let them be who they are, princess or not…Maggie, for now, doesn’t like frills…she likes dirt.